“Climb mountains not so the world can see you, but so you can see the world.”
– David McCullough Jr.
“I won’t pursuit this ‘happiness’ anymore,” I said.
I am sitting here, in my bed, but my mind is elsewhere… busy picturing a café, tables under a spring sunlight, and you and I sitting there. I’d just spilled those words and you were quiet, listening. Looking at me.
I’ve been chewing this around in my mind for a long time. Scattered thoughts, lazily swirling around in mid-air – but they never were something more than a suspect.
I think I won’t ever find ‘true happiness’. Because the common concept of ‘happiness’ – something one day you’ll be sure to have found – doesn’t suit me at all. I don’t believe you can ‘get’ happiness.
You ‘write’ your happiness.
Each of us has her own definition of happiness. You define it when you decide who you want to be and what you want to achieve, and pursue it with all your heart, no matter the odds. To me, happiness is writing stories, being kind, fighting for justice. For you, happiness may be creating beauty in your environment, or building an association, or developing a new medicine.
These goals involve sweat, tears, and frustration. And often, we fail. So, why do they make us ‘happy’?
Because happiness doesn’t lie in achieving something. Happiness lies in pursuing something.
It’s the continuous pursuit of an ideal self which makes us happy, regardless of all odds. Like a game of tag, where the fun lies not in catching others, but in running after them. As Viktor Frankl once said, once we know why we live, we can bear any difficulty.
Our ideal self is always a few meters ahead of us. We strive to start a business and, after starting it, we want to write a novel. After writing the novel, we want to have kids. Goals come and go, leaving behind them a mixed trace of happiness and sadness. But we pursue nonetheless because this is the definition of happiness we have chosen for us.
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