100 questions to connect the dots & inspire self-knowledge

To draw your inner atlas, you gotta start from somewhere.

If you want to know yourself more BUT don't know where to start from, this list will give you tons of starting points

“Every adventure requires a first step.” – Cheshire Cat

With so many paths you can take to understand yourself, though, it’s difficult to choose in which direction you should take that first step. The secret?

Anywhere works.

As with all explorers, you start by mapping what you already know. Only then, when you’ll have your surroundings laid out, you’ll be ready to step into the unknown.

Here are 100 questions on yourself. A hundred directions you can choose from. A hundred tiny steps to discover who you are.

And so the adventure begins…


  1. What do you find fascinating in your hobbies?
  2. What was your favourite fairy tale?
  3. What is the compliment that touched you the most?
  4. What do you think – and feel – about money?
  5. What type of social injustice just gets on your nerves?
  6. Because of a mysterious catastrophe, all novels and history books will disappear within a day. You have the chance to save one story. What is it, and why?
  7. What is the most profound lesson you’ve learned about life so far?
  8. What is your definition of happiness?
  9. What are three activities you enjoy the most?
  10. What are your no-compromise zones?
  11. Imagine you are a color. What would it be? And how would you describe it?
  12. Looking back at all your relationships, do you notice any pattern repeating itself over and over again?
  13. What in your present life would make your 8-year-old self squeal of delight?
  14. What makes you even forget to eat?
  15. What do your people always ask your advice for…
  16. … and what do you wish they asked your advice for?
  17. It’s your funeral’s day. Your closest friend stands up, open her mouth and… what is she going to say?
  18. If you could spend one whole day with your favourite fictional character, who would he or she be? And what would the two of you do together?
  19. … and, if you could be your favourite fictional character for one day, whom would you choose?
  20. If you could have four more lives, who would you be?
  21. How did you astonish yourself in the past?
  22. What was your favourite experience as a guest?
  23. If a magic pocket in your jeans gave you € 150 every week, what’d you do?
  24. How did one person change your life?
  25. What does your inner critic repeat over and over again?
  26. If you were to write a book, what would the subject be?
  27. What puts you in your creative zone?
  28. Who was your childhood hero?
  29. What does being a leader mean to you?
  30. Do you think somebody is evil, or that somebody can do evil things?
  31. How do you live your spirituality?
  32. If you could send a message to your 12-year-old self, what’d you write?
  33. Do you wait for others to help you, or are you the one who first lends a hand?
  34. When you see someone achieving what you want, how do you feel?
  35. What do you think of second chances? Yay or nay?
  36. If you had the chance of having one person, real or fictional, as your mentor, who’d he or she be?
  37. Do you commemorate the dead in your family?
  38. On a similar note, what qualities and traits did you inherit from your ancestors?
  39. Do you live in the past, in the present or in the future?
  40. Do you believe in fate?
  41. What is your unique, awe-inspiring talent?
  42. If you were to describe how your ideal life would feel in three words, what would you say?
  43. What is something that should never miss in your life? Like, what would make your life miserable if it weren’t there?
  44. When you are afraid, where do you feel it in your body? Does it change according to the situation you’re in?
  45. Can you tell the difference between your “sad tears” and “angry tears”? How do they feel to you?
  46. What is your definition – or definitions – of friendship?
  47. What do you believe about love?
  48. Do you identify with your zodiac sign? What makes you think hey, that’s me – or What? I’d never!?
  49. How did you react to the death of a loved one?
  50. If you could have an extra room and infinite money to renovate&decorate it, what’d you turn it into?
  51. While we’re at it, what are your thoughts (and feelings) about money?
  52. What makes you feel welcomed?
  53. Are you the one who initiates contact with someone new, or do you wait for the other to make the first move?
  54. What subject(s) did you love at school?
  55. Who would you like to have as a roommate? Run wild with your imagination!
  56. Do you think of yourself as a creative person?
  57. Close your eyes for a moment and listen to your body. Do you feel tense? Where?
  58. If you were given a magic wand that will teach you one skill in a nanosecond, what would you like to learn?
  59. Think of someone you really, really don’t like. What of him or her gets on your nerves? Now turn that into a more positive adjective. (For example, “he’s arrogant” becomes “he is self-confident.) Is it possible that you may want to have this trait too?
  60. What relaxes you more, staying by yourself or being with your friends?
  61. Do you trust your intuition?
  62. What was your favourite childhood pastime? How did it develop in your grown-up life?
  63. Do you think one is already born with self-discipline, or can learn it over time?
  64. How do you express your anger? Are you vocal? Do you go somewhere else to fume in private? Do you fuel all your rage into a massive house-cleaning session?
  65. Do you think happiness is a state, or that it is just a moment?
  66. How do you learn best?
  67. Who are the five people you spend most of your time with?
  68. Do you trust others immediately, or do they have to earn it?
  69. Would you rather work in a team or by yourself?
  70. If you had to describe the difference between shame and guilt, what’d you say?
  71. Should partners tell each other everything or not? Why?
  72. An extremely selective genie in a bottle is giving you the chance to change one thing about the way you were raised. What would you ask for?
  73. If you could know your future, would you want to?
  74. How did people in your family express emotions?
  75. What makes you feel the most embarrassed?
  76. Do you like saying out loud what you want, or do you prefer finding a more subtle way to get it?
  77. How do you usually react in a crisis?
  78. You had a bad argument with a friend of yours. Afterwards, you realize you were wrong. Do you apologize? Do you wait for the other to make the first move? Do you act like nothing happened?
  79. What’s the #1 quality you look for in a friend? And in a partner?
  80. How would you define an expert?
  81. Suppose you meet someone with unshakeable faith in humanity. What would you like to tell him or her?
  82. How do you react when you’re given a compliment?
  83. How do you do to get yourself psyched before a performance or a situation which scares and excites you at the same time?
  84. What is a piece of advice you’ve been given and that you will never, ever agree with?
  85. When you are über-distracted, what method do you use to regain your focus?
  86. If you were given a super-power, what would you like it to be?
  87. What is a trait all your favourite characters share?
  88. How do you deal with envy – both from yourself and from others?
  89. What do you think of love at first sight?
  90. Would you break the rules for the sake of something you truly care about?
  91. How would you prefer to die?
  92. Do you believe every living being has the right to exist?
  93. What is your approach to criticism? Do you sugarcoat it with a compliment first, or do you directly shoot the bullet?
  94. To truly get you, what should I read/watch/play/listen to?
  95. What do you think of younger generations? And older generations?
  96. Do you think everything is alive?
  97. What are your inner values?
  98. What was your biggest epiphany ever?
  99. Do you believe in yourself?
  100. What would you ask for, if you knew the world would tell you “yes”?

I’m curious to know: which one did you choose first? How did it go?

P.S. Why you learn to take care of yourself every day and on the importance of being your own activist.


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